tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23672177216616315262024-03-12T19:01:33.277-07:00Understanding Fantasy, Fetish, & Role PlayRichardADhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14011471845435878270noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2367217721661631526.post-77513201997705834482011-04-08T15:35:00.000-07:002011-04-08T15:38:29.420-07:00<div class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size: 14pt;">An Understanding for Fantasy, Role Play, & Fetish-Based Desires…</span></b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Part III in a continuing series. Please note that each article is a stand-alone entity, but all are precluded by a core preface: An Essential Introduction: </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><a href="http://anessentialintroduction.blogspot.com/">http://anessentialintroduction.blogspot.com/</a></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 11pt;"> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"> </span></div><h3><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Fetish Based Desire: </span></h3><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><br />
The origin of a sexually based fetish lies in the fact that somewhere along the line an attachment to a particular attribute, fantasy, or want became <b><i>linked-up </i></b>with a sexual desire. Though continued focus, this fantasy or desire usually evolved into a primary fixation. If given a proper outlet, you have a sexual pursuit which harmlessly revolves around a particular want (& this can encompass literally anything). However, if such infatuations are <b><i>not </i></b>kept in their proper perspective, then they do have the possibility to grow into a full blown obsession, & this is not a healthy stance for any sexual practice. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 11pt;">Given the nature of its orientation, a particular fetish is usually very specific in its scope & context. It's simply a compulsive yearning that needs fulfillment or a desire that needs to be explored. However, one's 'attachment' can be carried into just about anything... </span><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">One can for instance be fixated on a particular attribute: </span></b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">A fetish for breasts, a foot fetish, legs, or even something as off-center as an amputee - you name it & there’s someone who has a fetish for it. Most people have a preference for this or that, but a fetish takes that preference to the extreme & builds a complete fantasy-based-obsession.</span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 12pt;"><b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">One can also have a fetish for a particular type of attire: </span></b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Be it leather, latex, stockings, lingerie, a catholic school girl uniform - people often get turn people on by a particular look or feel of a certain fashion. The reason for this is usually pretty straight forward & this one category tends to be less specific in the context of its fixation. A person who has a desire for leather generally likes it in a variety of various styles & garments. However, there can also be some fairly obscure attachments to certain articles of dress or costume - gas masks for instance.<br />
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<b>A person can also have a compulsion toward a particular fantasy:</b> This can range from the realm of absolutely plain to truly deviant behavior. The fantasy itself is usually <i>very </i>specific, & one’s orientation to it is almost always a bit choreographed. Sometimes this can become such a profound obsession that a person is unable to achieve any level of sexual gratification unless they are able to play out a particular scene or enact a certain role. Other times it is more generalized & more of a fully evolved fantasy desire. <br />
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<b>Indeed, ANYTHING that can form an attachment: </b>Literally 'anything' can be made into a fetish based desire - as obscure as a sexual attachment to furniture, to even a fetish for getting kicked in the balls. In fact, with the advent of the internet even the most incomprehensible pursuits are no longer left in isolation. Just type in your key-words & add the term fetish, you'll soon find a group somewhere who shares a similar passion as yourself. </span></div><h3><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Fantasy Role Play: </span></h3><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><br />
The core essence to fantasy role-play is obviously not that deep. Generally, it’s nothing more than a personal desire to slip into another role & combine a moment of sexual desire with a bit of non-reality. It is the want to revisit a high school memory of being the football star who gets the girl (or the cheerleader who gets the guy; or even perhaps be the star you never were). It is a sense of living out the fantasy of having sex with your secretary when in real life you would never consider such a proposition. It’s a feeling of being absolutely powerless to another & having to ‘pay the rent’ any way you can (even though in reality you would never find yourself in such a position or would ever consider such a proposition). It’s any one of a thousand scenarios that have somehow been linked-up to form a basis for sexual desire. It's as simple & as harmless as watching a movie but instead you're an active participant. <br />
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However, just for the sake of clarity there are a couple of scenarios that may need some explanation (mainly because they are so often a point of contention with so many)…</span><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal"><b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Age Play </span></b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">- This is the desire to live out a fantasy that somehow involves a discrepancy in one's age (perhaps of pleasing ‘step-daddy’ or of being a ‘little-girl’). But for those who are posed with such a scenario, it’s important to understand that almost 99.99% of the time, such intrigue is <b>NOT </b>the desire to live out a pedophile fantasy. In short, this is a fantasy based on power & control over innocence, & it has <b>nothing </b>to do with someone wanting to make it with kids. A true pedophile would get <i>nothing </i>out of such a fantasy. At their core they’re predators & they don’t want the <i>fantasy</i>, they want the object of their desire. Also please note that the compounded issue of playing ‘step dad’ or ‘brother/sister’ almost never has anything to do with a desire for actual incest. Rather it is a desire to simply move into an area of sexual taboo (like sex with ‘the secretary’ - it's simply an area of forbidden fruit). <br />
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<b>Rape Fantasy </b>- Let's be clear, the woman who has a rape fantasy has absolutely <b>NO </b>desire to actually be raped. It's a fantasy based on the desire to be completely helpless & to do so in a context that carries a violent or objectified overtone. It is the desire to be ravaged. But make no mistake, it does not convey to reality in any manner. <br />
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<b>Infantilism </b>- This is the fairly rare & rather extreme desire to assume the role of an infant. This can often go as far as having one’s diaper changed or to actually be breast-fed. Keep in mind that as with age play, the function here has nothing to do with sexualizing an infant. This is a fantasy based almost completely in the need to relent total control & be nurtured. And yes, although I hate to say it, tomes of Freud actually do apply here… </span></div><h3><span style="font-size: 12pt;"> </span></h3><h3><span style="font-size: 12pt;">Transsexual vs. Transvestite Desires:</span></h3><span style="font-size: 11pt;"><br />
We’ll address concerns for the Transgender Community under ‘Sexual Orientation.’ But please keep in mind that the issues of a Transsexual are, from the perspective of the Transgender Culture, <b><i>anything </i></b>but a fetish. However, the desire <b>for </b>a Transsexual often falls under the category of a Fetish-based desire so that aspect we’ll address here. <br />
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The basic attraction for the Transgender Community is actually fairly common. And the community as a whole most certainly has a balance of supply & demand working in its favor. On the whole, they are pursued by the gay community as well as various aspects of the heterosexual & Bisexual Communities. The want for a transsexual in the gay community is partially one of sheer novelty, but predominantly due to a recognition of that diva quality that enunciates the most beautiful aspects of the female form in star-struck fashion. In both the Heterosexual & Bisexual communities, they are pursued primarily due to the result of a Same Sex Fetish (discussed in our article on bisexuality) or due to a certain degree of homosexual repression - the want for a male attribute with an otherwise female form. <br />
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<b>Transvestites </b>- One point of general confusion is the term <i>Transvestite</i>. A Transvestite is actually a cross-dresser. That is to say it’s actually a man (or woman) who dresses as the opposite sex for the purpose of gender-bending role play. They are however still the same sex & have made no physical augmentation to their sexual identity. </span><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Transgender </span></b><span style="font-size: 11pt;">- A person who is <i>Transgender</i> has been surgically & physically altered to thus assume the identity of the opposite sex. <br />
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It must also be understood that transsexuals (as noted in our adjacent article) DO maintain a crisis with sexual identity. Transvestites on the other hand, generally do not. They are individuals with a specific fetish, & in fact many are not even gay. They simply enjoy playing the role of a woman for a specified period of time but have absolutely no interest in actually ‘becoming’ a woman (or less commonly visa versa woman to man).</span><br />
<span style="font-size: 11pt;">A more detailed discussion will follow in our article regarding sexual identity. <br />
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- Richard A.D.</span><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Also in our series, we offer the following articles for your consideration - each a subject onto its own, but all come together to comprise the full spectrum of the adult & alternative community: </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><ul><li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">A Glossary of Terms: <a href="http://sceneterms.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://sceneterms.blogspot.com</span>/</a> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Hosting Your Own Party: <a href="http://planyourownparty.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://planyourownparty.blogspot.com</span>/</a> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">An Essential Introduction to Our Continuing Series: <a href="http://anessentialintroduction.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://anessentialintroduction.blogspot.com</span>/</a> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">An Insiders Guide to the BDSM Community: <a href="http://understandingbdsm.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://understandingbdsm.blogspot.com</span>/</a> <span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="color: black; text-decoration: none;"></span></span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Fantasy, Role-Play, & Fetish Based Desires: <a href="http://understandingfetishfantasy.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: black; font-size: 12pt; text-decoration: none;"></span></a></span> <span style="font-size: 11pt;"><a href="http://understandingfetishfantasy.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://understandingfetishfantasy.blogspot.com</span>/</a> </span><span class="MsoHyperlink"><span style="color: black; font-size: 11pt; text-decoration: none;"> </span></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Understanding Swingers, Poly, & Lifestyle Culture: <a href="http://understandingswingers.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://understandingswingers.blogspot.com</span>/</a> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">Understanding the True Nature of Sexual Identity: <a href="http://understandingsexualidentity.blogspot.com/"><span style="color: orange;">http://understandingsexualidentity.blogspot.com</span>/</a> </span></li>
<li><span style="font-size: 11pt;">A Core Foundation - Understanding Sexual Repression: <a href="http://understandingsexualrepression.blogspot.com/" style="color: orange;">http://understandingsexualrepression.blogspot.com/</a> </span><span style="font-size: 11pt;"></span></li>
</ul><span style="font-size: 11pt;">The full body of work is here: <a href="http://www.themetrounderground.com/Resources.html" style="color: orange;">www.TheMetroUnderground.com/Resources.html</a> </span><br />
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